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If you are not using power-over tactics—such as yelling, justifying, withdrawing, or relying on your usual communication defaults—how do you negotiate in a way that gets your needs met? Compromise
If you are not using power-over tactics—such as yelling, justifying, withdrawing, or relying on your usual communication defaults—how do you negotiate in a way that gets your needs met? Compromise
When I first started learning effective communication skills, I developed little equations in my head to help me construct a self-disclosure message, an active listening response, or a confrontative I-message.
The Game Changer in Relationships: Curiosity Over Justification There is a moment in almost every relationship conflict when the conversation reaches a fork in the road. It may begin with
by Julie Santall Judy’s Story Judy walked into my room clinging tightly to the arm of her partner. A tall, elegant woman of 69, she appeared frightened, vague and uncertain.
Many years ago, whilst immersed in a silent retreat, in the bathroom of all places, I asked a question as my partner at the time walked past. The answer resulted
The idea that we are all connected becomes especially clear when we look at families and communities as living systems rather than just collections of individuals. Within a family, each
In a culture that favours and celebrates couples, how do we celebrate Valentines Day amongst a generation who are pair bonding less, how do we celebrate passion, romance, aliveness, attraction
As we watch the world rapidly changing I have been contemplating a question, one that I have been researching for about 40 years as a therapist. The question is:“How do
Moving from Peer Orientation to Parent Orientation As a therapist of four decades there is one issue that baffled me until recently and that is the increased rage in a
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